Tomorrow’s the day.
We’ve been talking about it for over 6 years now, and it’s finally happening. No more excuses, no more waiting, no more putting it off. Tomorrow we have an appointment with a landscape designer.
When Mo and I met he already had our house. When I moved in we started making the house our home – and for me that included sprucing up the yard and flower gardens. We headed out to garden shops, nurseries, and the Home Depot and headed home with annuals, perennials, bushes, tools, and a wheelbarrow. Soil amendments, tree edging, rock removal and a ton of mulch later we had a pretty decent upgrade to our suburban and boring lawn.
That was year 1. By year 2 we noticed some of our perennials were devoured by rabbits, our bushes were barely surviving our hard-packed clay soil, and our lawn was getting either too soggy or burned out on our southern strip. What we noticed more that Spring, was that Mo’s diagnosis of DM meant that I was now in charge of mowing the lawn and yard maintenance for the year. Okay, no biggie, more work for one but do-able… then came year 3 when I had my car crash. More plants died as we stopped having the time, energy, or optimism to take care of the yard. I couldn’t walk that year, let alone garden, so plants were left to fend for themselves or die. Most died since we had picked some fairly high-maintenance species in our healthier years. Year 4 Conor was born, so needless to say that trumped everything else in 2009. Years 5 & 6 we started to get back out there, tried to tame the wild weeds that had grown up around us. Curses be to dandelions and our neighbor’s aspen runners!
It began to dawn on us it would be better to scrap the whole plan and start new. Just get rid of the whole damn thing. I don’t mourn all the plants we have killed and the time and money wasted, they have all taught us lessons. We know the problems, we just need someone to help us figure out the solutions. The Thomas Edison quote “I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 ways that won’t work” is my new gardening mantra.
The yard we planned all those years ago doesn’t fit with our life now. Mo still gets fatigued with his DM and I have a ton of trouble with uneven surfaces now that my ankle is fused. Our grass is going away so we won’t have to mow, in its place gravel walks and benches to rest. Xeriscaping is our future since we want to spend our time in the garden, not working on it.
We are so excited to start this new project – we’ll keep you posted on the progress!